I have noticed a disturbing trend. Some families of a certain cultural background tend to have big families. Unfortunately they do not seem to know when to stop until the youngest child is born with a syndrome, most usually Down Syndrome. I am talking big families here, like 6 kids and up. Why does this happen? I don’t understand.
Don’t get me wrong; these parents are not bad people. In fact, they are one of the most conscientious loving parents you can hope to find. They will go the many extra miles just to make their kid feel better. Unfortunately, they also do not usually belong to the higher income bracket, so the massive healthcare bills that their kid chalks up due to their multitude of problems, is borne by taxpayers. I find this unfair in quite a number of ways. Sometimes i feel that we need to impose a cap on the number of children people above a certain age are allowed to have. If you are in your mid-forties and you already have six in your brood, and you are not even in the income bracket of the middle class, then you really ought to foot the medical bills of your child. Because i cannot fathom why people who keep their families small so they can survive, have to help bring up yours.
And don’t you think it is cruel for your children, the existing ones and the disabled one? Obviously you are going to rely on your older children to care for your youngest disabled child. Caring for someone with a disability is a massive responsibility; you really should not force it onto anyone. It is a life-changing event.
You know your disabled child is suffering. You have lost track of the number of surgeries he has undergone for his heart, or the multiple ICU admissions when you thought you will lose him. You saw the team intubate him, jab him with needles and catheterize him, all to save his life. I know you are hurting because i saw the tears as you sang bravely to your child as we struggled to find yet another vein to hydrate him. So why, why is this happening?